Testimonials

Life moved rapidly for me after high school. I became a dad five months before my 21st birthday and married at the youthful age of 18. For me, fatherhood has been the greatest teacher that I have ever had. Before my wife and I had kids everything was about my plans. The most lofty being the idea to retire by 40. Well, dad life has taught me that anybody can make money, but it takes a father to change the world.

I believe that many of the challenges we face today are because men have been forgotten. It’s not that we were left out intentionally, or that the progress we have made is bad. What I mean is that in the course of lifting everyone up men have been left behind. One in three children in America will be raised without a father — not because of hardship — but because we have stopped teaching our boys how to be men. We now see a crucial piece of our world being uncultivated and unchallenged and it is devastating our communities. The world needs men because they play key roles in both healthy masculinity and the interpersonal development of children. Simply put, everything I have read and experienced as a dad has led me to one conclusion: Dads matter and matter a lot!

In the Bible there is a parable about three servants who are given talents (money) to invest while their master is away. Upon return he found that two of his servants were faithful and doubled the value of what was entrusted to them. The third was condemned because he was afraid of losing it and buried what he was given. I believe that we as parents have a similar responsibility. I view the role of Fit Fathers as a sacred responsibility to raise children while cultivating them into strong, independent adults who will add value in others. Being a dad means changing the world and preserving everything that is good. Again, anybody can make money, yet father responsibilities are the greatest roles of all!

Philip A. Jackson, Senior Field Representative for the First Congressional of Oklahoma

 

Words by Jason Wood, Project Manager and Elite Obstacle Course Racing Athlete

Before my daughter arrived life was all about advancing my career, making more money, and attempting to fit the mold that society deemed was successful. Everything I accomplished was selfish in nature. That changed when my little girl entered this world. When she was born there was a mindset adjustment that took place. No longer was everything about me. The narrative immediately changed to the creation of the best possible values and atmosphere for her growth and happiness.

After her birth I went through a very tough period and ventured down a path that ultimately led to a major crossroad. At the end of that road I found fitness and the sport of obstacle course racing.  It was these two passions that ultimately gave me the sense of direction and purpose I was craving. They made me a better man and a better father. Like any father we want our children to witness our passions while taking part in the things that makes us happy. As Clarence Kelland stated, “My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived and let me watch him do it.”

Being a Fit Father isn’t necessarily about the physical appearance portrayed when we walk out of our homes every day. It certainly isn’t about how fast we can run our how much weight we can move. It’s all about setting positive examples. I understand that my daughter is always watching me, seeking to understand the world around her through my eyes. Our children seeing us happy, healthy, and doing what we love will ultimately translate to how they approach their lives. Life is going to be hard with obstacles each step of the way. So of course there will be “haters.” Being a Fit Father means teaching my daughter how to overcome and persevere while gracefully moving through fear and doubt. But in those times of need daddy will always have her back! A Fit Father is a teacher and the architect of the foundation for which our children will write their own life stories. A life story with context clues pointing out that their fathers will always be with them.

 

A Fit Father means being both the teacher and the student. One day my daughter stated, “you don’t know what it’s like as a kid!” We were in disagreement about a topic and that statement made a major imprint in my mind. I was born in 1983, my daughter was born in 2006 and my son was born in 2017. We will all experience different social trends, advancements in technology, job markets, education, etc. Now, my mindset is learning what it is like to be a kid in 2018 and help her be successful and create characteristics that will be impactful in today’s society. My son will go through a different world when he is 5, 10 and 15 than we all did. Specific moral codes will remain law but the way they move will change and vary differently in comparison to the generation before them.

As Fit Fathers we know that we are teachers, providers and protectors, but continuously learning about the world our kids are living in will be an ongoing journey. My children will look to me for guidance and I will look to them for understanding of the daily triumphs and tribulations they face. Together we will keep each other growing.

Word by Styves Exantus

When I ponder on what it means to be a Fit Father I think of the word “serve.” Serve, like “love” has so many connotations such as being present when your children take their first step. Other shining examples include offering words of wisdom, taking care of them when they are ill, holding them tightly during hard times and celebrating during good times. Fathers offer so much value within the family structure, yet the greatest asset for each is to be a shining example.

When we serve we are setting the bar high in a positive manner and that is what leaders do. Being a great leader for your family will do so much for your children. You may not know it but they watch everything that we do and strive to be just like us. Leading by example will allow them to carry your life lessons into their own character traits.  Yes, every dad should be a leader and a server.

EJ Kaku, 5 Star Nutrition Moody AFB

Fatherhood means love, sacrifice, forgiveness and growth. As a young father I struggled early on to establish the identity and character of the provider I desired to be. Through patience and love the outlook quickly began to change. Although I made several mammoth mistakes, fatherhood was something I was determined to be great at while learning more from my children regarding life’s valuable lessons. More than I could ever imagine, one of the most impactful lessons my son taught me is that “we grow as we go.” So please, never give up on your dreams, learn as much as you can, do not be afraid to admit when you’re wrong and do everything you do out of love!

Durrel Davis, Athletic Strength and Performance Specialist